Husband Cheating on Me With Escorts

June 18, 2021 - Reading time: 12 minutes

Marriages can withstand many ups and downs over the years; however, when it comes to one partner cheating on the other and committing acts of infidelity, this can often act as the catalyst for marriage breakdown and divorce.

Over the years we have seen many cases where men of all ages were cheating on their partners with escorts. Escorts, or sex workers, can be found in a number of different places, and if your husband is paying for sex then catching him out can prove to be very difficult. If a man is having an affair with another person, then the warning signs can be more prominent than if he is simply using escorts on a regular basis.

Most married men that pay for the services of escorts will never be caught out by their partners, and their behaviour can continue for many years in some cases.

If you discover that your husband is cheating on you with escorts, this can cause deep emotional wounds which are difficult to heal, and coming to terms with the situation can prove troublesome for many women.

My husband was cheating on me with escorts

All contact with our agency is strictly private and confidential, we will never disclose information which is sent to us without written consent from our clients. With that said, we received a contribution to this blog post from one of our clients, for the purpose of this article we will call her “Sarah”.

Sarah contacted us in April of this year regarding concerns that her husband may be involved in a relationship with another woman. We were asked to place her partner under surveillance, and ultimately gathered damning evidence against him. 

What follows is a written testimony from Sarah:

I had been seeing my partner for almost 7 years. He is 34 and I’m 33. We had been engaged for 16 months and were due to get married in the summer of next year. Lately we had been going through a tough patch in the relationship. Everyone has arguments and bad patches, but this time felt different. 

One thing I noticed was that he was less interested in becoming intimate with me. He has felt sort of disconnected from me for a good while.

I always knew that he had used escorts in the past before meeting me. I was shocked at the time he confessed to this, but he told me that it was at a dark time in his life and he needed female company. I felt sorry for him.

As his behaviour became more and more odd, I decided to look through the internet history on his iPad and found that he had been looking at escort websites. I confronted him and he brushed it off by saying that he was looking for a friend and would never do anything with an escort. I didn’t believe him but I needed proof.

This is when I decided that I needed help and contacted PrivateInvestigators-UK. I was apprehensive at first but they were great and explained the process to me and what I could expect.

The first evening that my fiancé was followed nothing really happened. On the second night however, when he was supposed to be at the gym, I received photos of him entering a house, which looked like a normal terraced property. He returned out 30 minutes later before driving home.

Whilst he was inside the house, one man left and another one entered. It seemed like the writing was on the wall, and with some more research we were able to find the property mentioned online where it was described as a brothel.

My suspicions were confirmed. He was seeing cheap escorts on a regular basis and probably for months of our relationship. 

I felt betrayed, dirty, and sickened. But most of all, I was glad to have discovered my partner’s true colours before it was too late and we tied the knot. 

Why do men cheat on their partners with escorts?

There could be many different reasons which lead married men to solicit services from escorts, whether it is purely the physical enjoyment and thrill of sleeping with other women, or the emotional bond which can follow in some cases. We have listed some of the more common reasons below.

• The enjoy the thrill of being caught

The thrill of being caught soliciting services from escorts can prove to be a turn on for many guys, whether they enjoy the seedy nature of indulging in an illegal practice, or the risk of being caught out by their partners or the authorities.

• They began using escorts while single and continued while in a relationship 

Some men will begin using the services of escorts while single, but find the habit hard to break after entering into a serious relationship or even marriage. It would seem that old habits can die hard for many men that use escorts.

• They lack excitement in the bedroom

Many couples will experience a lack of excitement in the bedroom over the course of their marriage. As the years go by, many couples become more and more used to the habits and preferences of one another. Rather than trying to bring excitement back into sleeping with their partners, some men will choose to venture out and seek their excitement with other women. Escorts can provide an easy and discreet means to this end.

• They are addicted to paying for sex

If your husband has been secretly paying for the services of escorts from a young age, then breaking that habit is often easier said than done. Massage parlours, strip clubs, and similar establishments can be found in most cities around the UK… Many of our will walk past these places on a regular basis without realizing what is occurring behind their closed doors.

Other men will prefer to meet escorts through websites or apps, which is as easy as browsing photos of different escorts and making a selection. If your husband has been accustomed to paying for sex from a young age, then he may have developed an addition to paying for sex which he will seek to feed.

• They enjoy the feeling of power

Make no mistake about it, some men thoroughly enjoy the feeling of power which they can receive from having the pick of their next sexual partner, and the ability to have sex whenever they choose. 

Signs that your husband is cheating on you with escorts

If your husband is cheating on you and soliciting services from escorts, then detecting this can be very difficult. Men that visit escorts tend to do so over many years, or decades in some cases… Their behaviour becomes normalized to them and they learn how to conceal their habits from long-term partners. 

With that in mind, we have put together the following signs which could indicate that your husband is cheating on you with escorts: 

• He has browsed escort or hook-up websites

Why would someone browse through escort websites if they are not considering paying for services from an escort? There is simply no logical answer to this question. If your husband has been searching for escorts online then this should act as a strong indication of his interests.

• He is carrying strange smells

If your husband is coming home smelling of strange fragrances, this could act as a sign that he has been intimate with other people. While this is an age-old adage, strange smells on your husband can still give his game away. Some people even claim that they can “smell sex” or bodily fluids on their partner.

• He is showering more often and irregularly 

If your husband is becoming intimate with other people behind your back, then he will likely decide to shower more regularly in order to mask the scent and freshen himself up. If your husband has started to shower more often than usual, and at irregular times when he would not usually bathe, then you would be wise to question why he is doing that.

• Money is going missing

Escorts do indeed cost money, with some ladies at the top of their profession commanding hundreds (or even thousands) of pounds per session in some cases. If your husband is spending more cash and withdrawing more money from his account than usual, and he cannot reasonably explain why that is, this is another sign that something could be amiss.

• He is less intimate with you

Have you have noticed a drop in your husband’s libido? Perhaps he has started telling you that he is “not in the mood” more often than usual, this could be an indication that he is satisfying his urges with another woman. It should be noted that not all men are the same, and some guys will not become less intimate with their partners whilst paying for time with escorts in their spare time.

• He hides his phone screen and won't let you use his phone

If your husband hides or turns off his phone screen when you are around him, then you need to ask yourself why he is doing that. Similarly, if you ask to borrow his phone for any reason and he won't let you, or needs to "do something" on his phone before allowing you to use it, these are strong indications that he might be communicating with other people he doesn't want you to find out about.

How we catch cheating husbands

We are a leading detective agency covering all areas of the United Kingdom. If you suspect that your husband is cheating on you with escorts, or with anyone else; then we can help to launch an investigation with the goal of catching him red handed, and providing the proof needed to make decisions about your relationship.

Our primary method for catching men that are suspected of cheating be our personal surveillance service. As part of surveillance we would follow your husband on foot, or in vehicles, and capture photos/video as proof and confirmation of his activities.

The total amount of surveillance required to catch a cheating husband can vary from case to case. Some of our clients will end an investigation once they have received photos showing their partner committing infidelity, other cases can remain open for longer periods if our client requires proof for divorce proceedings or is simply curious about how often their partner is visiting escorts.

Please visit our homepage for more information, or feel free to get in touch with one of our experienced team members and request a free quote.

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