10 Body Language Signals That Your Partner Might Be Cheating

July 11, 2021 - Reading time: 7 minutes

Does it feel like something in your relationship is different? Like something has changed but you aren’t exactly sure what it is?

Cheating couple leaning on each other

Detecting infidelity in a relationship can be difficult, especially if your partner hones their lies by having an affair over several months or even years.

Fortunately, there are some body language signals which can help to give away what your partner has been up to. Here are 10 body language signals that your partner might be cheating on you:

1. They will avoid eye contact with you

When your partner doesn’t look you in the eyes like they used to, this is a strong sign that they are being dishonest. A lack of eye contact is one of the most common indicators of dishonesty and people resort to this body language signal when they are trying to hide something.

If your partner is cheating, they will avoid eye contact when you ask them direct questions. If you notice that they are looking away when questioned, then you should press them on why they don’t want to look you in the eyes.

If they start a fight, try to change the subject, or still not maintain eye contact with you, then their behaviour should act as a strong indication that something isn’t right.

2. They become tense when you show them affection in public

Public displays of affection like hand-holding, an arm around their shoulder, or a hand on their waist will cause them to be reluctant and hesitant. If you see any shift in behaviour from what they usually behaved like, then there may be something they are hiding from you. 

If they usually liked hand-holding, but now they avoid it, then that is a shift from their normal behaviour, and you should look into it.

3. They look you in the eyes more often

If your partner is looking you in the eyes more often, they might be trying to compensate for their disinterest in what you are saying and doing. 

Why is this? People know that looking away and avoiding eye contact can be interpreted as being disinterested and that it will come across as rude. Knowing this, they will try to keep as much eye contact as possible to try and fool you.

4. Their feet face away from you

The positioning of your partner’s feet can give you a hint as to whether they are cheating on you or not. if their feet are pointing away from you when you are talking, then they are not interested and are focused on something else.

This is one of the most obvious body language signals that you can pick up on and use to help yourself find out more about what or who your partner is more focused on.

5. They are blinking too much

Blinking rapidly is a sign that something isn’t right. If your partner is blinking more than usual, especially when talking about specific things like your relationship and their movements, then this is a signal that they are struggling to keep up the lies they are telling you and hiding their affair.

6. Increased anxiety signals

Lying is a stressful thing and keeping up with the lies can be difficult. If your partner is cheating on you, then they may well show more anxiety signals.

Anxiety signals include rapid blinking, shallow and fast breathing, increased foot-tapping, fiddling their fingers and objects, and having mood swings. If your partner displays any of these, then they could be lying to you or hiding something they don’t want you to find out about.

7. They give you the cold shoulder

If your loving partner becomes cold and distant all of a sudden, then it’s obvious that something has changed. Have the fun and enjoyable conversations become dull and forced? This is a sign that your partner is trying to distance themselves from you because they feel guilty about cheating and lying, and that they want to get out of the relationship.

8. Increased hygiene

If your partner becomes more hygienic all of a sudden, this could be a sign of infidelity. Yes, really. They could be doing this to remove all traces of the other person’s scent on their skin.

Your partner might start showering more, changing their clothes more frequently, buying clothes more often, and purchasing new perfumes or aftershaves to hide any trace of their new lover’s scent.

9. Their voice will start to change

Men and women tend to drop the tone of their voices, so it becomes deeper when they are feeling sexy. If you notice your partner’s voice becoming deeper when they are talking to someone on the phone compared to when they are talking to you, then you should start paying attention.

If your partner is laughing more when they are on phone calls than when they are talking to you, then this is something that you should be suspicious of. Especially if this change in behaviour is paired with some of the other body language signals that have been mentioned in this article.

10. Hesitation in their speech

If your partner uses more placeholders when they are talking to you, this is an easy signal to notice. It is your partner’s body’s way of asking them to buy more time so they can come up with answers to your questions.

They don’t want to be caught out on a lie, so they will need to think about what they have to say for longer, and they will fill in this extra time with placeholder words. If you notice this, then ask them if anything is wrong, their answer and the way they say that answer could tell you everything you need to know.

Catch a cheating partner

If you suspect that your partner might be cheating on you, then don’t suffer in silence! PrivateInvestigators-UK operates a network of experienced private detectives, covering all areas of the United Kingdom and beyond. 

We can help to place your partner under surveillance, check their movements, and provide hard evidence that they are cheating on you. Evidence which is captured by us can help our clients to make life changing decisions, or be used as proof of infidelity during divorce proceedings. 

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