Is Your Husband Cheating With Escorts?

June 18, 2021 - Reading time: 16 minutes
Updated on: October 5, 2025

My husband was cheating on me with escorts

All contact with our agency is strictly private and confidential, we will never disclose information which is sent to us without written consent from our clients. With that said, we received a contribution to this blog post from one of our clients, for the purpose of this article we will call her “Sarah”.

Sarah contacted us in April of this year regarding concerns that her husband may be involved in a relationship with another woman. We were asked to place her partner under surveillance, and ultimately gathered damning evidence against him.

What follows is a written testimony from Sarah:

I had been seeing my partner for almost 7 years. He is 34 and I’m 33. We had been engaged for 16 months and were due to get married in the summer of next year. Lately we had been going through a tough patch in the relationship. Everyone has arguments and bad patches, but this time felt different.

One thing I noticed was that he was less interested in becoming intimate with me. He has felt sort of disconnected from me for a good while.

I always knew that he had used escorts in the past before meeting me. I was shocked at the time he confessed to this, but he told me that it was at a dark time in his life and he needed female company. I felt sorry for him.

As his behaviour became more and more odd, I decided to look through the internet history on his iPad and found that he had been looking at escort websites. I confronted him and he brushed it off by saying that he was looking for a friend and would never do anything with an escort. I didn’t believe him but I needed proof.

This is when I decided that I needed help and contacted PrivateInvestigators-UK. I was apprehensive at first but they were great and explained the process to me and what I could expect.

The first evening that my fiancé was followed nothing really happened. On the second night however, when he was supposed to be at the gym, I received photos of him entering a house, which looked like a normal terraced property. He returned out 30 minutes later before driving home.

Whilst he was inside the house, one man left and another one entered. It seemed like the writing was on the wall, and with some more research we were able to find the property mentioned online where it was described as a brothel.

My suspicions were confirmed. He was seeing cheap escorts on a regular basis and probably for months of our relationship.

I felt betrayed, dirty, and sickened. But most of all, I was glad to have discovered my partner’s true colours before it was too late and we tied the knot.

Why do men cheat on their partners with escorts?

There could be many different reasons which lead married men to solicit services from escorts, whether it is purely the physical enjoyment and thrill of sleeping with other women, or the emotional bond which can follow in some cases. We have listed some of the more common reasons below.

• The enjoy the thrill of being caught

The thrill of being caught soliciting services from escorts can prove to be a turn on for many guys, whether they enjoy the seedy nature of indulging in an illegal practice, or the risk of being caught out by their partners or the authorities.

• They began using escorts while single and continued while in a relationship

Some men will begin using the services of escorts while single, but find the habit hard to break after entering into a serious relationship or even marriage. It would seem that old habits can die hard for many men that use escorts.

• They lack excitement in the bedroom

Many couples will experience a lack of excitement in the bedroom over the course of their marriage. As the years go by, many couples become more and more used to the habits and preferences of one another. Rather than trying to bring excitement back into sleeping with their partners, some men will choose to venture out and seek their excitement with other women. Escorts can provide an easy and discreet means to this end.

• They are addicted to paying for sex

If your husband has been secretly paying for the services of escorts from a young age, then breaking that habit is often easier said than done. Massage parlours, strip clubs, and similar establishments can be found in most cities around the UK. Many of our will walk past these places on a regular basis without realizing what is occurring behind their closed doors.

Other men will prefer to meet escorts through websites or apps, which is as easy as browsing photos of different escorts and making a selection. If your husband has been accustomed to paying for sex from a young age, then he may have developed an addition to paying for sex which he will seek to feed.

• They enjoy the feeling of power

Make no mistake about it, some men thoroughly enjoy the feeling of power which they can receive from having the pick of their next sexual partner, and the ability to have sex whenever they choose.

Signs that your husband is cheating on you with escorts

If your husband is cheating on you and soliciting services from escorts, then detecting this can be very difficult. Men that visit escorts tend to do so over many years, or decades in some cases. Their behaviour becomes normalized to them and they learn how to conceal their habits from long-term partners.

With that in mind, we have put together the following signs which could indicate that your husband is cheating on you with escorts:

• He has browsed escort or hook-up websites

Why would someone browse through escort websites if they are not considering paying for services from an escort? There is simply no logical answer to this question. If your husband has been searching for escorts online then this should act as a strong indication of his interests.

• He is carrying strange smells

If your husband is coming home smelling of strange fragrances, this could act as a sign that he has been intimate with other people. While this is an age-old adage, strange smells on your husband can still give his game away. Some people even claim that they can “smell sex” or bodily fluids on their partner.

• He is showering more often and irregularly

If your husband is becoming intimate with other people behind your back, then he will likely decide to shower more regularly in order to mask the scent and freshen himself up. If your husband has started to shower more often than usual, and at irregular times when he would not usually bathe, then you would be wise to question why he is doing that.

• Money is going missing

Escorts do indeed cost money, with some ladies at the top of their profession commanding hundreds (or even thousands) of pounds per session in some cases. If your husband is spending more cash and withdrawing more money from his account than usual, and he cannot reasonably explain why that is, this is another sign that something could be amiss.

• He is less intimate with you

Have you have noticed a drop in your husband’s libido? Perhaps he has started telling you that he is “not in the mood” more often than usual, this could be an indication that he is satisfying his urges with another woman. It should be noted that not all men are the same, and some guys will not become less intimate with their partners whilst paying for time with escorts in their spare time.

• He hides his phone screen and won't let you use his phone

If your husband hides or turns off his phone screen when you are around him, then you need to ask yourself why he is doing that. Similarly, if you ask to borrow his phone for any reason and he won't let you, or needs to "do something" on his phone before allowing you to use it, these are strong indications that he might be communicating with other people he doesn't want you to find out about.

How we catch cheating husbands

We are a leading detective agency covering all areas of the United Kingdom. If you suspect that your husband is cheating on you with escorts, or with anyone else; then we can help to launch an investigation with the goal of catching him red handed, and providing the proof needed to make decisions about your relationship.

Our primary method for catching men that are suspected of cheating be our personal surveillance service. As part of surveillance we would follow your husband on foot, or in vehicles, and capture photos/video as proof and confirmation of his activities.

The total amount of surveillance required to catch a cheating husband can vary from case to case. Some of our clients will end an investigation once they have received photos showing their partner committing infidelity, other cases can remain open for longer periods if our client requires proof for divorce proceedings or is simply curious about how often their partner is visiting escorts.

Please visit our homepage for more information, or feel free to get in touch with one of our experienced team members and request a free quote.

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Hiring a Private Investigator to Trace Debtors in the UK

June 12, 2021 - Reading time: 5 minutes
Updated on: August 8, 2025

If someone owes you money and has vanished, you're not alone. Whether it's a former tenant, an ex-partner, or a business client who's gone quiet, it can be frustrating when someone disappears owing you money. Our team specialises in locating debtors across the UK and, depending on the case, we may be able to help on a no-find no-fee basis.

We provide discreet, fast, and effective debtor tracing services for individuals, landlords and companies. If you’ve reached a dead end or have limited details to go on, hiring a private investigator is often the best way to move forward.

Legal Options for Debt Recovery in the UK

If you're owed less than £10,000, you can begin a claim through the Money Claim Online service. If you win the claim and secure a County Court Judgement (CCJ), you can then take steps such as sending bailiffs or applying for enforcement through the High Court.

But all of that relies on knowing where the debtor actually is. If they’ve moved, changed their name, or cut contact, our tracing service gives you a clear way to get back on track.

Need help understanding the legal side of things? You might find our article on statutory demands for debt recovery helpful.

Why Use a Private Investigator to Trace Debtors?

Trained investigators can find people even if they’ve moved several times, changed jobs or tried to cover their tracks. We use a mix of legal databases, field enquiries and other tools to get accurate results. In many cases, we can trace a person with just a full name and a past address.

• Reliable and legal tracing methods
• No-find no-fee available in many cases
• Covering all areas of the UK and some international cases
• Fast turnaround with confidential handling

Tracing Former Tenants

If you're a landlord dealing with unpaid rent or property damage, you're entitled to seek what you're owed. But if the tenant has vanished, you’ll need their new address to take further action. Our investigators can track them down quickly, often when traditional methods have failed.

Don’t Let Time Pass You By

The longer a debtor is gone, the harder it is to find them. Many people assume it’s not worth the effort, but the reality is that a good tracing agent can often locate someone even after years have passed. If you act quickly, the odds of recovery are much higher.

For cases involving financial hiding or avoidance, have a look at our post on how asset tracing works.

What We Need to Start

To trace a debtor, we ideally need their full name and at least one address they've previously lived at. Other helpful details include their date of birth, phone number, social media accounts, or any known workplace. The more information you can provide, the more likely we are to locate them quickly.

Let’s Help You Get What You’re Owed

We’ve helped clients all over the UK find missing debtors and take the next steps toward recovery. If you're ready to get started or just want some advice, get in touch for a free and confidential quote. Our team will talk you through your options and give honest advice on how to proceed.

Contact us today to trace a debtor and move forward with confidence.

What Skills Do Private Investigators Need?

June 10, 2021 - Reading time: 7 minutes
Updated on: August 8, 2025

Detective films, series, books, stories, are extremely popular and exciting. We follow the investigator’s actions and marvel at their sharp mind and ability to catch the criminal. But a real-life private investigator (PI) has to have certain skills to be able to crack a case. These skills can be learned through training courses or from past experience within law enforcement or the military.

A private investigator has to have some basic inherent characteristics that make him a suitable candidate for detective work and there are skills that he or she can learn to become proficient in the profession.

Inherent skills required to become a private investigator

• An investigative mindset: Curiosity is what compels a private investigator to analyze situations and logical thinking directs the thoughts in the right direction. Well-developed reasoning skills help the PI decipher evidence and reach the correct conclusions. He/she also has to have the ability to keep emotions out of the picture and remain completely objective.
• A keen sense of observation: An essential quality of a detective is his keen sense of observation and attention to detail. The smallest of clues can make or break a case. It pays to be thorough. This quality helps the investigator to solve the cases by getting to the bottom of a riddle. 
• Intuition: A private investigator has to depend on his/her intuition to be able to guess when a person is lying. It’s this intuition that aids his/her deduction skills. He/she also has to be a keen student of human behavior and be aware of and trust his/her deducing abilities. 
• Patience: A very important quality of any investigator is patience. Hours of watching and waiting are a part of conducting surveillance assignments. A dedicated investigator has to be tenacious to ferret out the truth. Patience and that persistence are the keys to successful surveillance and interviewing of difficult persons of interest.
• An unbiased mind: Any preconceived notion will negatively impact an investigator’s conclusions vis-a-vis the case he/ she is handling, particularly if it is regarding the color of the skin or race of a person. A PI has to be impartial and detached from the case which they are investigating.
• A great memory:  A private investigator has to depend on this quality to be successful in his trade. He/she has to be able to think on his/her feet and make prompt decisions. He has to be well-read and aware of previous cases of crime which can be used for reference.  

Private investigation skills which must be learned

1. Surveillance skills: The primary job of any private detective is surveillance. Many hours have to be spent sitting or standing without being conspicuous. Handling cameras and video equipment to gather evidence is a part of surveillance. Photographs and video footage form the primary evidence in most cases. Investigators should be proficient in their camera equipment and have good photography skills.

2. Research skills: Today there are different types of sources like phone calls, interviews, social media, online documents, and of course informants and police evidence. Being able to understand the crux of the matter from the varied information is a skill to be learned. Reading body language and understanding the implications is another skill that can be learned.

3. Critical thinking skills: A private investigator has to have well-developed reasoning skills. His/her logical mind should guide him to the motive behind a crime, the method used to commit the crime, and reach the correct conclusions. He can learn the intricacies of filing a log with relevant information. A well-written report will not only collate all relevant information, it will also help in communication with the client or the authorities.

4. Verification of evidence: A good private investigator should be able to verify the truth behind evidence. Evidence is collected from varied sources, so computer proficiency is as important as handling GPS trackers and video surveillance. Photography skills come to good use since the most credible type of evidence is usually photographs or video, especially in court. 

5. Communication skills: Interrogation is an important part of a PIs daily routine. He/she must know the art of persuading, convincing and listening to people. The actual meaning behind the words uttered can be deciphered by an intuitive, well-trained detective. Studying body language, facial expressions, and asking appropriate questions are skills that a diligent detective or PI must develop.

6. Sound knowledge of the law: Many surveillance actions are restricted to the police and law enforcement agencies. A PI must be educated about relevant codes and statutes in the area he operates. This legal knowledge will prevent him/her from indulging in activities that may cause their license to be revoked, and to ensure that evidence is admissible in court.

7. Organizational skills: For a busy private investigator, organizational skills are essential to prevent evidence from different cases from getting mixed up or losing the focus of each case. Time management is a part of this skill too. He/she will be able to build up the clients’ faith by responding promptly to their call and being available to them at all times.

8. Confidentiality: This is a quality possessed by most dedicated private investigators. Not only is it highly appreciated, it also builds up the client’s trust.

9. Resourcefulness: New technology has made it easier and faster to access records. With the right training, a diligent detective will be able to utilize public records online, such as employment history, driving records, criminal records, and even financial records of the subject.

Private investigators are highly regarded and their services are used and much appreciated by individuals as well as law enforcement agencies. Stories about them line the shelves and the video platforms. But although on-screen or in books the private detective’s life seems glamorous and exciting in actuality it is a difficult profession. It requires dedication, honesty, commitment, and all the skills described above. It can be tedious, boring, and often frustrating. But those bitten by the curiosity bug make very good private investigators. After all, they do not rest easy till they have found out the truth.

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How Private Investigators Catch Cheating Partners UK

May 25, 2021 - Reading time: 6 minutes
Updated on: August 8, 2025

Looking for proof of cheating for divorce in the UK? Wondering can a private investigator catch a cheating partner? You're not alone. For many, infidelity is a deal-breaker, and catching a cheating spouse is essential to moving forward—both legally and emotionally. Here’s how professional investigators help you get the truth you deserve.

Signs You May Need an Infidelity Investigation

If you're unsure whether to take the next step, consider whether you’ve noticed the following behaviours:

• Sudden secrecy around their phone, messages or online activity
• Changes in routine, like late nights or unexplained trips
• Increased grooming, new clothes or sudden focus on appearance
• Unexplained expenses on joint accounts
• Less intimacy or emotional distance

These could be signs of a secret relationship. When suspicions rise, hiring a private investigator for infidelity can offer the clarity you need.

How Private Investigators Prove Infidelity

Our experienced team uses a range of methods to collect legally sound, court-admissible evidence of cheating. Here’s how we do it:

Surveillance

One of the most effective tools in our work. We observe the subject discreetly, monitor their movements, and gather timestamped photo and video evidence. This approach is ideal for documenting suspicious behaviour and confirming infidelity beyond doubt. Learn more about our surveillance services.

GPS Vehicle Tracking

If legally appropriate, we may recommend the use of GPS tracking devices to monitor the subject’s movements. This can reveal patterns such as regular visits to unknown addresses, late-night travel, or secret rendezvous spots.

Honeytrap Investigations

In some cases, our clients request a honeytrap investigation. This involves a trained operative making contact with the subject in a controlled and discreet way to assess whether they respond inappropriately. This can help confirm suspicions when traditional surveillance isn't conclusive.

Online & Social Media Investigations

Open source intelligence (OSINT) and background checks can expose hidden profiles, messages, or photos suggesting an affair. We know where to look and how to dig legally and discreetly.

Why DIY Investigations Usually Fail

Trying to follow or photograph your partner yourself can easily go wrong. We’ve seen many cases where evidence was lost, subjects were tipped off, or things escalated unnecessarily. Here’s why DIY doesn't work:

• You may breach privacy laws without realising
• Poor quality images or shaky footage is useless in court
• Your partner might spot you and alter their behaviour

Once a person suspects they’re being watched, they often become more secretive—making it far harder to prove anything. Always speak to a professional first.

The Benefits of Using a Licensed Private Investigator

When you work with us, you’re guaranteed professionalism, experience and discretion. Most of our investigators come from military or law enforcement backgrounds, and we operate across the entire UK and beyond.

• Evidence that stands up in court – Photos, videos and reports gathered legally
• Discreet operations – Your partner will not know they’re being watched
• Clear reporting – We give you everything you need to make an informed decision

What to Provide Before We Begin

The more information you give us, the more efficient (and cost-effective) your case will be. Helpful details include:

• Regular hangouts – gyms, cafes, friends' homes, etc.
• Photos and description of the subject (and suspected partner)
• Vehicle info – make, model, number plate, colour
• Work schedule or any regular travel plans
• Links to social media profiles
• Known habits – smoking, drinking, tattoos, jewellery

Let us know if you've already confronted them, conducted your own investigation, or mentioned hiring a PI—this could impact our strategy.

Hire a Local Private Investigator

We cover every corner of the UK, from rural villages to city centres. Our nationwide network of private detectives ensures fast, local support wherever you need it. We understand the emotional stress this type of situation brings and approach every case with care and confidentiality.

If you’re ready to take the next step, contact us for a confidential chat. We’ll talk through your concerns and help you decide the best course of action based on your situation and budget.

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